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Beliefs On, Limits Off

Have you ever struggled with your self-talk? Have you ever talked yourself out of doing something because you told yourself you couldn’t? Have you ever stood in your own way and placed limits on yourself because you believed you didn’t deserve something or someone? Well if you have, we’re here to tell you that you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with an internal battle on a daily basis due to our own self limiting beliefs. Although certain things may be deeper than just self-talk, other things can be remedied by changing it and the way we interact with things out in the world. It’s time to expect good things to happen. It’s time to recognize you are worthy of going after what you want. It’s time to have beliefs on and keep limits off.

Live & Unfiltered 21: Do It On Purpose

This week's episode is about finding your life's purpose. Special guest, Keith, founder of the Good News Radio Network.

Live & Unfiltered 20: Ain't No Telepathy

This week's episode is about learning to express ourselves to others effectively.

Live & Unfiltered 19: More Than Just Flowers

This week's episode is about giving someone their flowers. In other words, appreciating someone while they are still here.

Is The Time Right?

Feelings. We all have them and to be honest, sometimes they suck. Sometimes you just want to let them all out as soon as they hit you right then and there. But it’s not always the right time or place to do so and you may definitely not be around the right people. That’s the thing with feelings; not only do we have to learn how to deal with them but also when. However, life is about learning how to balance so we also must know the difference between being private and just suffering in silence. This is to remind you that having feelings doesn't make you weak but to always be careful who you’re sharing them with. So before you start letting out all your emotions, ask yourself, “is the time right?”

Live & Unfiltered: The Real Ones

This week's episode is on loyalty and friendship. 
Special guests: The hosts from The Courtside Radio

Live & Unfiltered 17: Don't Pick Me

This week's episode is on being a "pick me," being desperate, and unappreciated.

Your Other Side

Sometimes we’re ashamed of this. The part of us that may be seen as ugly, negative, or undesirable. Sure, this part of us may not always be appropriate to show in a situation but it is still there somewhere inside ourselves. This is our shadow side. In this episode, we talk about that shadow side of us and debunk the need to get rid of it. Instead, we talk about having a relationship with it and how it can become our protector in certain circumstances. Our shadow side can teach us a lot about ourselves and help us get rid of the need to be perfect or shame ourselves for our flaws. So come join us in this conversation and learn a little bit more about your other side.

Live & Unfiltered 16: It's Worth It

This week's episode is about dating yourself.

Live & Unfiltered Episode 14: When Is It Too Much?

This episode is about overthinking and it's effect on our lives.

Think Like An Aquarius

Why the title? Well, Aquarius are known for being aloof and distant but in reality we’re just always in our heads assessing the situation to see the outcome of the bigger picture. We are the ones to decide when is the right time to remove our energy or let go of a dead situation. It’s not an easy decision but it is necessary to ask if we want to continue to move forward in a healthy direction. This episode focuses on the importance of being ok after we’ve removed our energy from a situation. The importance of saying no when we want to or feel like we’re spreading ourselves too thin. The importance of taking time for ourselves away from others. It focuses on the importance of thinking like an Aquarius.

Live & Unfiltered Episode 13: Big B Energy

This week's episode is about enforcing our boundaries.
 

Live & Unfiltered Episode 12: What Does Yours Look Like?

This week's episode focuses on faith.
With special guest, Faith Abrea, owner of Faith In Crystals.

You Not A Savage

Have you ever stopped doing something because you thought it wouldn’t work out anyway? Have you ever thought “what’s the point?” Or “what if they hurt me?” Sometimes we self-sabotage because it’s our defense mechanism. We self-sabotage our goals, our finances, and even our relationships without really thinking about what consequences it could have in the long run. In reality, self-sabotaging is very common and may stem from a much deeper inner issue, revealing an unhealed part of ourselves. Even though self-sabotage may seem like the best decision, if it becomes our go-to we might be stunting our own long-term growth and happiness. We may think self-sabotage is the answer but trust us, if you do it you definitely not a savage.

Don't Fall For It

Sometimes you just want to give someone the benefit of the doubt because you think they’ll eventually be on the same page as you. Sometimes you see something in them and want to wait until they do, too. Sometimes you just look past the red, inconsistent flags they’ve been throwing from the beginning because you hope that eventually they will see their own potential the way you do. However, sometimes you’re the only one waiting, giving, and hurting all because you see that person’s potential and where things could lead but they don’t. Potential is not a real foundation for a relationship or feelings. It’s only a possibility of what could happen between two people. Although potential is what could attract us to someone it should never be what keeps us to them. This is the disappointing part about potential so whatever you do, don’t fall for it.

It Is What You Think

Mindset shapes the way we think about love, money, goals, and everything else in our lives. This is why it’s important to pay attention to our self talk and daily habits and ask ourselves if they’re working for or against us. Sometimes, we are our own worst critics without realizing it and tend to self sabotage. Sometimes, we are this way because of what we saw/ experienced growing up and are working towards changing that. In this episode we decided to talk about rewiring our mindset in order to build healthier habits, relationships, and goals. It is not an easy process and we are also working towards that every day but we have realized how powerful mindset is. Mindset carries us through everything because when it comes down to it, it is what you think.

Live & Unfiltered: She's The Boss

Check out our latest SpeakUpJV: Live & Unfiltered episode titled “She’s The Boss.” Here we interview the beautiful, talented, and ambitious Tymera Finley (@tymerisamazing), CEO of House of Mera (@houseofmera). In honor of Women’s History Month we have a discussion on what it means to be a successful woman, overcoming obstacles as female entrepreneurs, and redefining our own standards of beauty. We hope you enjoy this episode and conversation as much as we did. Follow us on our Instagram to keep up with our show and other content: @speakupjv

Is The "T" Real?

No it’s not that kind of “T” today. Although this “T” should still be served hot with care and pure facts. We’re talking about trust. It’s a simple enough word that holds a lot of weight on its own but still so fragile at the same time. With this being said, we have to wonder how easily we give away our trust to certain people and just how difficult it is to repair if it is broken. In this episode, we’re here to tell you our experiences and thoughts on the meaning of trust. We talk about having standards not just for others but for ourselves as well. It’s easy to point out when someone else has betrayed us but we should also stop and ask ourselves if we are trustworthy to begin with. We have to ask ourselves how do we move forward from either situation? At some point we have to start and ask ourselves, is the “T” real?

Tell It Like It Is

You would think giving and receiving advice is easy right? That when someone gives you advice it’s usually harmless or helpful? That they told you this because they have your best interest in mind? However, that’s not always the case. Not everyone is in the best position to give you advice, whether it’s someone secretly hating on you, or they don’t want to see you doing better than them, or they don’t understand your situation completely. This is why it’s important to practice discernment when seeking advice from others. On the other hand, we must also know when someone is only watching out for us and wants to see us succeed. Sometimes it is true that we need an outside perspective, some tough love to take the next step, or to see that something is no longer serving us. Sometimes we need people in our lives who will tell it like it is.

Lurking Ain't Easy

Yup that’s right. We’re going there today and we are calling everyone out. Have you ever convinced yourself that one little peek wouldn’t hurt? One little fake page? One little moment of curiosity that then turns into an investigation into what someone has been up to the past 8 months? Now you’re hurt, crying, calling your best friend because you decided to lurk? Well then come on over, this episode is for YOU! It’s ok we’ve all done it but we need to check ourselves and strive to move forward. If you’re looking to heal from the past and put your energy into the right places then the lurking has got to stop. Here we are judgment free and admit to our own experiences and current struggles with lurking. Trust us, we found out the hard way that lurking ain’t easy.

SpeakUpJV 50th Episode: Girl's Night In

Welcome to our 50th episode! Sit down, relax, and enjoy some wine with us as we answer questions sent from our listeners. This was a chance for us to find out what you all wanted to know as well as for you to get to know the SpeakUp girls! We get real with our answers in regards to friendship, family, self care, and many others. So let’s talk, laugh, cry and enjoy our girl’s night in.

SpeakUpJV Episode 49- Men

We want to say something to the men. The men coming from various walks of life, mannerisms, and mindsets. The men who have crossed paths with us and have impacted us in one way or another. Even though not every experience has been a great one, it has been a real one. Thank you for the lessons, the pain, the standards, and the love. Yes, we can only speak from our perspective as women but it all comes from the heart. We just want you to know that you are valued and loved, even when we don’t agree on everything. Also, trust that we do want to see you win. Win in love, in spirit, and anything else that will bring you fulfillment. This is why we had to get real honest in this episode and say a few things first. Men, this one’s for you.

Dear 2020: The Holiday Episode

What a year. No doubt that everyone has their own thoughts, emotions, and experiences towards this one. In this holiday episode we reflect and reminisce on our experiences this year from the good, the bad, and everything in between. However, regardless of what happened we are grateful to have made it this far and are looking to move forward in a healthy manner. Join our discussion as we dedicate this one to dear 2020.

How Thick?

Thick. Thick. Thick. What did you think of when you saw this word come up today? For us, the word thick holds great significance. It is the word that used to have a negative connotation but now we use it to embrace ourselves physically. We use it to embrace the parts of us that aren’t “perfect” or “ideal,” the parts that we have hidden through certain camera angles, and the parts that we’ve struggled to accept throughout our child and adulthood. Learning to do this is not easy and it is a category in our self love journey all on its own but nonetheless it is an important one. Embracing our curves and “thickness” allows us to accept, be patient, and fall in love with our bodies. It is the only one we have in this life and should be treated accordingly so. How thick is your respect for your body? How thick is your love for your body? How thick is your acceptance for your body?

Situationships Ain't It

As you can tell from the title, today we’re talking about situationships. You know, the ones that bring nothing but heartaches, confusion, and anger? The ones where you can’t really call that person yours because you’re not really dating but you are but you’re really not? Did that confuse you? Us too. This is the reason why we’re talking about them in today’s episode. Defining what we want and expect from the beginning is important if we want to avoid wasting our time. It’s true that we all have different definitions of dating so that will depend on us. However, no matter what we call it all people involved need to be informed because situationships just ain’t it.